closure in relationshipsSeeking closure of a past relationship? Psychics get asked for assistance with closure all the time. Clients have expressed a desire to get closure because they want to stop feeling stuck. They want to let go of the past and let love back into their lives again. They know that their ex from a past relationship has moved on, and are wondering why they are having such a hard time doing so.

Psychic readers are asked how to get closure from past relationships all the time. Closure from a past relationship is something many people seek, yet have a very hard time finding. When the pain of loss is so great, many tend to want the pain to lessen as quickly as possible. This is understandable. You want the pain to stop and will do anything to get rid of it. You want to stop having feelings for your ex from a past relationship. Your friends and family encourage you to move on and find someone else. (Sometimes they even offer to introduce you to someone new). They are tired of seeing you miserable and want you to be happy again. You want that for yourself as well.

Sometimes seeking closure is a good thing, and sometimes it is not. Why? For starters, the problem with seeking it too quickly is that you may be wasting your time.  It is not that seeking it is always a waste of time, but for some it is.  A client may be seeking closure when in fact the psychic reader sees that their ex is going to want to reconcile.  If the client wants to reconcile as well, why should they bother seeking it when the relationship is going to continue? That’s a waste of energy.

Psychics are often asked if the client should be seeking closure, or how to get it from a past relationship and they are surprised to learn it is not time to give up. On the flip side, for some, no matter how hard it is for them to find closure, they really need to.  They are holding on to a past relationship that is over, and it is time to move forward.  The relationship will not reunite, the ex has moved on and found closure of their own, so the client needs to take their first steps towards it.

However, they will not get closure if they do not begin to detach.  You cannot expect to get closure when you are clinging to the past and not allowing yourself to let go. You have to put in the work.  You also cannot give closure a date, meaning you cannot say you are going to get closure on such and such a date.  Closure is a process, a journey. You begin at one point, and travel toward closure.  Eventually you will get there.  The time it takes is different for everyone, so don’t judge yourself too harshly if it isn’t going as quickly as you might think.

When you seek closure from a past relationship you have to have realistic expectations.  The time, love, and energy you put into that relationship cannot be extinguished in a month. It takes time.  Yes, closure is hard, but there are some things that people do that make it even harder to get. It is very important for clients to understand that although sometimes closure is the best thing for them, while for some, it is not needed.

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