Has your relationship increased or decreased your self esteem? Relationships, if they are healthy ones, should bring out the best in us. Our self esteem should be at a good place when we enter into any relationship and our relationship should help to elevate it.
The people we are in relationships with should support us, yet call us out when necessary too. We should be able to be ourselves, warts and all, and get the same unconditional love we give to those we are in relationships with. Our self esteem should not be constantly and consistently beaten down to the point where we have little, or no self esteem to speak of.
We are responsible, to a large degree for our own self esteem. When we are younger and are not free to choose who we form relationships with; we have very little control. However, when we become adults. it is up to us to surround ourselves with positive, nurturing relationships with those who allow ourselves to keep our self esteem high.
What we are willing to tolerate and accept in our relationship is our responsibility, and our choice to make. We are not in control of how people treat us once we let them into our lives, but we are in control of whether they stay in our lives or not.
As Ru Paul says, “If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell are you going to love anyone else?” Your self esteem should be at a level on par with the ones you love. You should love yourself as you love others. If you really think you are worthy of someone else’s love, how can you be so unlovable to yourself? It doesn’t make sense, does it?
Our relationships can be a mirror of the relationship we have with ourselves. If we do not think highly enough of ourselves, chances are the friendships and romantic relationships we have with others will be with people that don’t act towards us like they think that highly of us either.
Many clients ask psychic readers if the person they love is right for them. Psychics are not supposed to give their opinions, so that is not the right kind of question to ask us. Only you, the client, can answer that for yourself.
A good way to help you answer that question would be to examine your self esteem both before and after you got into this relationship. If it has plummeted, then the person you have chosen to be in a relationship with may not be right for you under the present circumstances.
You can’t be happy in a relationship with someone when your self esteem is at zero. It would be better to ask the psychic reader if the dynamics of your relationship can change so your self esteem (and happiness) can rise to higher levels.
Our friends, family members, co workers, and romantic partners can all affect our self esteem in many ways. The longer you wait to address a relationship that is affecting your self esteem negatively, the lower your self esteem goes, and the harder it will be to change they dynamic, if at all. Psychic readings can reveal if it is time for you to shed some of these relationships once and for all, or change them so you can feel good about yourself again.